These last few weeks have been a humbling reminder for me. A couple of times, I assumed fellow Rotarians understood exactly what I meant—after all, we’re a group of smart, dedicated, articulate people. But the truth is, we don’t all share the same background knowledge, and my assumptions caused confusion and, unfortunately, some hurt feelings.
In both situations, I rushed ahead instead of slowing down to ask questions, clarify, or make sure the other person felt supported. Without meaning to, I made people feel unheard and undervalued, and that realization has weighed on me. I’ve always known I move fast and sometimes assume too much, but knowing that doesn’t excuse the impact. I didn’t create the atmosphere of appreciation I promised myself I would strive for—and the responsibility for that is mine.
One member was gracious enough to tell me directly how my words landed. Another situation showed itself through body language and a message passed through others. Even as I tried quickly to repair the harm, I realized that words can linger, and healing takes time.
So why share this? Because I believe in the power of learning together. I believe in the 4-Way Test as a compass—not a judgment—and I believe we grow stronger when we can be honest about our imperfections. We come from different experiences, different knowledge bases, and different ways of interpreting the world. We owe it to one another to slow down, to check in, to listen fully, and to assume less while caring more.
And here’s the hopeful part: every misstep is also an opportunity. I’m grateful for the grace shown to me, and even more grateful for the chance to do better. As we move forward together, I’m committed to being more intentional, more curious, and more present.
Our club is filled with kind, generous people who want the best for one another and for our community. I am hopeful—truly—that with open hearts and open communication, we will continue to build a culture where everyone feels respected, appreciated, and heard.
Here’s to learning, to growing, and to showing each other the very best of what Rotary can be.
With warm Rotary hugs,
